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Anger and aggressive feelings that often follow are an integral part of our lives. The difference between healthy
demonstration of anger and aggressive act is the action that may be harmful to an
other person, an animal or object.
Life is frustrating
Young children do not have life easy. They have everything to learn: crawl, eat with a spoon or fork, drinking la tasse, marcher, parler, ouvrir les portes et être gentil avec tout le monde! L’apprentissage n’en finit plus et cela peut devenir très, très frustrant. Quand leur frustration atteint un tel niveau qu’ils ne peuvent plus la gérer, il leur arrive alors de faire une « crise de colère ».
Les crises de colère
Lorsque votre tout-petit est en pleine crise de colère, il faut comprendre qu’il n’est plus raisonnable et que ce n’est pas avec de bons arguments que vous parviendrez à le calmer. Pour se sentir en sécurité, l’enfant a besoin de savoir que, s’il perd le contrôle, les adultes around him keep their own. Calm your toddler in a way that works best for him, rock him, cuddle him, humming a song or take it in your arms. When the tantrum is over, calmly repeat what you were doing. If the crisis was triggered by your refusal to buy him something he has requested, do not buy it at this time. While this can be very difficult, try not to be embarrassed when tantrums occur in public.
The best strategy for parents to temper tantrums of their children is to avoid them.
Here are some suggestions:
• Organize your life so that you and your child want mostly the same thing;
• When possible, offer choices;
demonstration of anger and aggressive act is the action that may be harmful to an
other person, an animal or object.
Life is frustrating
Young children do not have life easy. They have everything to learn: crawl, eat with a spoon or fork, drinking la tasse, marcher, parler, ouvrir les portes et être gentil avec tout le monde! L’apprentissage n’en finit plus et cela peut devenir très, très frustrant. Quand leur frustration atteint un tel niveau qu’ils ne peuvent plus la gérer, il leur arrive alors de faire une « crise de colère ».
Les crises de colère
Lorsque votre tout-petit est en pleine crise de colère, il faut comprendre qu’il n’est plus raisonnable et que ce n’est pas avec de bons arguments que vous parviendrez à le calmer. Pour se sentir en sécurité, l’enfant a besoin de savoir que, s’il perd le contrôle, les adultes around him keep their own. Calm your toddler in a way that works best for him, rock him, cuddle him, humming a song or take it in your arms. When the tantrum is over, calmly repeat what you were doing. If the crisis was triggered by your refusal to buy him something he has requested, do not buy it at this time. While this can be very difficult, try not to be embarrassed when tantrums occur in public.
The best strategy for parents to temper tantrums of their children is to avoid them.
Here are some suggestions:
• Organize your life so that you and your child want mostly the same thing;
• When possible, offer choices;
• Avoid placing your child in a difficult situation for him
• Plan activities, healthy snacks and toys for the inevitable expectations;
• If you must take your child shopping, make sure to include the program something interesting for him (eg., pause the ball room of the mall);
• Give warnings: "You have to leave in five minutes";
• Explain yourself "... because daddy will come home and we seek, "and
• Discuss these situations with calmness and good sense.
Search causes
When a child behaves aggressively, it is not without reason: think about what happens in his life. Is there a new baby he wants to pinch, because Mom is too busy to play? Does Dad trip over and is not there for her bath?
Aggression real
The list of aggressive behavior is really long: biting, hair pulling, pinching, kicking fist, kicking, take toys from each other, hurting animals, breaking things. However, their result is always the same, that is to say an unhappy child because his behavior makes him unpopular. This small, needs your help! Start
staying nearby when playing and pretend to do something else while the supervisor. As soon as you notice that his behavior becomes aggressive, act quickly. Take his hands, put yourself in his height, look into his eyes and say: "I know you're upset, but I can not let you hit. The shots hurt. I arrest you now but soon stop you you'll know yourself before you hit. "
Keep a calm voice and stay respectful. Invite your little to explain his views, saying
• Plan activities, healthy snacks and toys for the inevitable expectations;
• If you must take your child shopping, make sure to include the program something interesting for him (eg., pause the ball room of the mall);
• Give warnings: "You have to leave in five minutes";
• Explain yourself "... because daddy will come home and we seek, "and
• Discuss these situations with calmness and good sense.
Search causes
When a child behaves aggressively, it is not without reason: think about what happens in his life. Is there a new baby he wants to pinch, because Mom is too busy to play? Does Dad trip over and is not there for her bath?
Aggression real
The list of aggressive behavior is really long: biting, hair pulling, pinching, kicking fist, kicking, take toys from each other, hurting animals, breaking things. However, their result is always the same, that is to say an unhappy child because his behavior makes him unpopular. This small, needs your help! Start
staying nearby when playing and pretend to do something else while the supervisor. As soon as you notice that his behavior becomes aggressive, act quickly. Take his hands, put yourself in his height, look into his eyes and say: "I know you're upset, but I can not let you hit. The shots hurt. I arrest you now but soon stop you you'll know yourself before you hit. "
Keep a calm voice and stay respectful. Invite your little to explain his views, saying
"I see you are very angry. Please, explain to me why you're so angry. "When treated with respect, children learn to resolve conflicts by talking rather than using their physical strength.
Be patient. You'll have to repeat this scenario many times before your child learns. It may also be necessary to mention the consequences of bad behavior. Tell him, using simple language, of what can happen. You might say, for example:
"Jessica, if you throw sand at Joel, you must leave the sandbox. And if the sand lance, act immediately and remove it calmly. Never threaten to do something that you can not do and always do what you said you would.
Isolation is a technique that many parents find useful in aggressive behavior.
This isolation means that the child is removed from what he did for a short period. Isolation is
Effective:
• If there immediately;
• If it is short: suggest to the child decide when he will return to play;
• If it is very annoying, and
• If it is not too frequent.
careful what you say
Remember that it is the child's behavior is bad and not the child. For example, say
"Laurence, it's not good to break your doll house" instead of saying "You're a bad girl! . Seek opportunities to encourage your child by saying For example: "Well, Louis, you're really careful when you turn the pages of the book."
solutions to aggression
Some children feel a great need to do things physically and they need help to learn to vent their energy. If so your little one, you could register for a sport, or take it out on the playground as often as possible, or go jogging with him. When he needs to express his rage, suggest that the boxer of the couch, hitting a block of wood with a hammer toy Plastic or to go running outside. You can not change its nature and its needs, but you can show him how to act appropriately when he is angry.
Be patient. You'll have to repeat this scenario many times before your child learns. It may also be necessary to mention the consequences of bad behavior. Tell him, using simple language, of what can happen. You might say, for example:
"Jessica, if you throw sand at Joel, you must leave the sandbox. And if the sand lance, act immediately and remove it calmly. Never threaten to do something that you can not do and always do what you said you would.
Isolation is a technique that many parents find useful in aggressive behavior.
This isolation means that the child is removed from what he did for a short period. Isolation is
Effective:
• If there immediately;
• If it is short: suggest to the child decide when he will return to play;
• If it is very annoying, and
• If it is not too frequent.
careful what you say
Remember that it is the child's behavior is bad and not the child. For example, say
"Laurence, it's not good to break your doll house" instead of saying "You're a bad girl! . Seek opportunities to encourage your child by saying For example: "Well, Louis, you're really careful when you turn the pages of the book."
solutions to aggression
Some children feel a great need to do things physically and they need help to learn to vent their energy. If so your little one, you could register for a sport, or take it out on the playground as often as possible, or go jogging with him. When he needs to express his rage, suggest that the boxer of the couch, hitting a block of wood with a hammer toy Plastic or to go running outside. You can not change its nature and its needs, but you can show him how to act appropriately when he is angry.
Parents are role models
Your children watch you and imitate you. It is by the example you give him the most formative education. If you yell, he yells. If you approach conflicts with calm and reason, he will learn to do the same. On the other hand, spanking, slap or the slap administered when you are angry he teaches do the same thing. If you type your child as punishment for having typed, confusion may set in his mind.
You lose control?
Most of us know what rage and yell we cry more and louder, and after, we feel completely overwhelmed.
How did we "lose our cool" at this point? If you feel you will lose patience, STOP, remove yourself and "count to ten." When you can calmly discuss again with your
child, talk to her about her behavior. Tell him what is the behavior in question and why it is wrong to do so. Also explain how to change his attitude and how you will react if such misconduct occurs.
Your children watch you and imitate you. It is by the example you give him the most formative education. If you yell, he yells. If you approach conflicts with calm and reason, he will learn to do the same. On the other hand, spanking, slap or the slap administered when you are angry he teaches do the same thing. If you type your child as punishment for having typed, confusion may set in his mind.
You lose control?
Most of us know what rage and yell we cry more and louder, and after, we feel completely overwhelmed.
How did we "lose our cool" at this point? If you feel you will lose patience, STOP, remove yourself and "count to ten." When you can calmly discuss again with your
child, talk to her about her behavior. Tell him what is the behavior in question and why it is wrong to do so. Also explain how to change his attitude and how you will react if such misconduct occurs.
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