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It happens to all children do not always behave well. This is always painful for us parents because we would all be Perfect parents behaved children like pictures!
There are several reasons for the misconduct of a child and several ways that you, as parents can use to help improve its behavior. Challenging behaviors include: •
use of bad language;
• aggressive or violent;
• damage to property;
• lie;
• theft;
the
• refusal to cooperate with necessary tasks like getting dressed in the morning, go to bed at night or do his homework. The
intentional misconduct and unintentional
Children can be accidental or intentional misconduct. It is important to distinguish between the two. For example: • The
accidental misconduct - In a friendly battle of snowballs, your eight year old child injures another because a stone was discovered accidentally in the snowball.
• The intentional misconduct - Your child steals a candy bar at the corner due to your refusal to give him his pocket money two days in advance.
Why children behave badly they?
causes of misconduct can be very obvious or hidden or underlying. Here are some possible reasons: •
impulsiveness and inexperience - Often, the misconduct is the result of a lack of prudence or good sense of the child. For example, a child of eight who started the snowball was excited and had fun (impulsivity). It is still too young to realize that even the most innocent actions can be dangerous when performed carelessly (inexperience). •
revolt against Rules - No one likes being told what to do, including children. However, they are constantly told what to do and how! It is therefore not surprising that they misbehave because of a feeling of resentment or anger. For example, your three year old can hit a little friend because of your insistence on asking him to share his toys. Similarly, your teenager may yell, swear and slam doors after being repeatedly asked to arrange her room.
• a sense of resentment and anger because of unfair treatment - We défoulons sometimes our own anger and frustrations on our children. We yell at them because they are noisy, while the real reason for our anger stems from an event that happened at work. We all occasionally act in this manner. However, if this becomes a habit, our children will eventually respond by showing behaviors of resentment and anger. •
the frustration caused by too much pressure, sometimes we push our children to achieve goals that are too big, too fast. If you push a child to always do things, like standing up on skates before he is physically ready to make or participate in games that are too difficult for his age, he could possibly refuse to learn new things at home or apply less to school. •
fears: real or imaginary - If your child suddenly refuses to do things he used to do this may be due to real or imagined fear. For example, your child may suddenly refuse to board the school bus because he was frightened by an older child that he and hostile now takes the same bus (real) or may refuse to go to bed because "a Tyrannosaurus is hidden in his closet" (imaginary).
What can you do to change difficult behavior?
Among the most important things you can do there being patient, to avoid losing his cool and remember that love always gives better results than punishment. Think before you act. Ask yourself questions. Then go to the action as calmly and with as much kindness as possible.
• Does my child knows he is loved? Make sure your child knows you love her. The children often say they do not hurt. Love begets love. It is much more difficult for a person, regardless of age, to behave in ways that hurt someone he loves.
• Is it necessary for my child to do this, or is it correct that he can make choices? Obviously, in some situations it is impossible to give a choice to your children. Dangerous behavior, destructive, dishonest or rude to be corrected and children must learn to recognize its limitations. Give them, however, a certain freedom of choice: their clothes, lunch (provided Whether eating!) and planning their time between homework and play
• My Child Has he done it on purpose? Against a child is angry because of misconduct caused by a lack of prudence or common sense can do more harm than good. In the case of a child of eight years at the snowball, you could address this problem by taking the opportunity to teach him some basic lessons in safety. However, you may need to repeat these lessons many times before your child can, by itself, assess the risks before taking action without having to put your word.
• If I get angry that he worse things? Suppose your three year old child can go to your bedroom and breaks a string of beads after being reprimanded. He is obviously angry, and if you react with anger, you will feed a cycle of anger which it will be difficult to get out. Tell your child you understand his anger he is angry and encourage him to express his feelings in words and find a solution to repair the damage.
• Learn to use the method of rest to help your child regain his composure and his Masters self. Give him a moment of solitude, not as punishment but rather to give him a chance to recover from an episode of misconduct. Send your child to his room and encourage him to read, coloring or playing with a favorite toy until he has calmed down. Try
then discuss the behavior problem constructively with him.
• The punishment given was too harsh? If you punished your child when you were angry, it is possible that you have the impression of being too strict. Trust your feelings. Remember that changing idea is not necessarily a sign of weakness. Children have a strong sense of "fair play" and they meet an adult who changes his mind to be more fair.
• Try to establish regular routines for your children. Children need the security provided by the routine and regular activities in a stable environment. Security and stability help children to behave in a stable and cooperative. • Plan
sometimes out of the routine to avoid boredom. Once established, the routines can be broken for special reasons. Non-routine activities give children the opportunity to have fun and see new things, knowing that eventually they will return to the safety of their normal routine.
• Remember that every child needs to know that there are limits. Impose limits and calmly but firmly insist on certain standards of conduct will give a sense of security to your child.
To inquire
If your child's difficult behavior worries you and you feel you need extra help to those that can provide family and friends, know that there are books very helpful in this regard as well as courses and workshops on parenting.
If behavioral problems your child are severe and frequent, ask your family doctor to refer you to therapists who work with children. You can also contact a community organization like the Canadian Association for Mental Health to obtain more information about resources and support services available in your area.
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http://www.cmha.ca/bins/content_page.asp?cid=2-29-66&lang=2
It happens to all children do not always behave well. This is always painful for us parents because we would all be Perfect parents behaved children like pictures! There are several reasons for the misconduct of a child and several ways that you, as parents can use to help improve its behavior. Challenging behaviors include: •
use of bad language;
• aggressive or violent;
• damage to property;
• lie;
• theft;
the
• refusal to cooperate with necessary tasks like getting dressed in the morning, go to bed at night or do his homework. The
intentional misconduct and unintentional
Children can be accidental or intentional misconduct. It is important to distinguish between the two. For example: • The
accidental misconduct - In a friendly battle of snowballs, your eight year old child injures another because a stone was discovered accidentally in the snowball.
• The intentional misconduct - Your child steals a candy bar at the corner due to your refusal to give him his pocket money two days in advance.
Why children behave badly they?
causes of misconduct can be very obvious or hidden or underlying. Here are some possible reasons: •
impulsiveness and inexperience - Often, the misconduct is the result of a lack of prudence or good sense of the child. For example, a child of eight who started the snowball was excited and had fun (impulsivity). It is still too young to realize that even the most innocent actions can be dangerous when performed carelessly (inexperience). •
revolt against Rules - No one likes being told what to do, including children. However, they are constantly told what to do and how! It is therefore not surprising that they misbehave because of a feeling of resentment or anger. For example, your three year old can hit a little friend because of your insistence on asking him to share his toys. Similarly, your teenager may yell, swear and slam doors after being repeatedly asked to arrange her room.
• a sense of resentment and anger because of unfair treatment - We défoulons sometimes our own anger and frustrations on our children. We yell at them because they are noisy, while the real reason for our anger stems from an event that happened at work. We all occasionally act in this manner. However, if this becomes a habit, our children will eventually respond by showing behaviors of resentment and anger. •
the frustration caused by too much pressure, sometimes we push our children to achieve goals that are too big, too fast. If you push a child to always do things, like standing up on skates before he is physically ready to make or participate in games that are too difficult for his age, he could possibly refuse to learn new things at home or apply less to school. •
fears: real or imaginary - If your child suddenly refuses to do things he used to do this may be due to real or imagined fear. For example, your child may suddenly refuse to board the school bus because he was frightened by an older child that he and hostile now takes the same bus (real) or may refuse to go to bed because "a Tyrannosaurus is hidden in his closet" (imaginary).
What can you do to change difficult behavior?
Among the most important things you can do there being patient, to avoid losing his cool and remember that love always gives better results than punishment. Think before you act. Ask yourself questions. Then go to the action as calmly and with as much kindness as possible.
• Does my child knows he is loved? Make sure your child knows you love her. The children often say they do not hurt. Love begets love. It is much more difficult for a person, regardless of age, to behave in ways that hurt someone he loves.
• Is it necessary for my child to do this, or is it correct that he can make choices? Obviously, in some situations it is impossible to give a choice to your children. Dangerous behavior, destructive, dishonest or rude to be corrected and children must learn to recognize its limitations. Give them, however, a certain freedom of choice: their clothes, lunch (provided Whether eating!) and planning their time between homework and play
• My Child Has he done it on purpose? Against a child is angry because of misconduct caused by a lack of prudence or common sense can do more harm than good. In the case of a child of eight years at the snowball, you could address this problem by taking the opportunity to teach him some basic lessons in safety. However, you may need to repeat these lessons many times before your child can, by itself, assess the risks before taking action without having to put your word.
• If I get angry that he worse things? Suppose your three year old child can go to your bedroom and breaks a string of beads after being reprimanded. He is obviously angry, and if you react with anger, you will feed a cycle of anger which it will be difficult to get out. Tell your child you understand his anger he is angry and encourage him to express his feelings in words and find a solution to repair the damage.
• Learn to use the method of rest to help your child regain his composure and his Masters self. Give him a moment of solitude, not as punishment but rather to give him a chance to recover from an episode of misconduct. Send your child to his room and encourage him to read, coloring or playing with a favorite toy until he has calmed down. Try
then discuss the behavior problem constructively with him.
• The punishment given was too harsh? If you punished your child when you were angry, it is possible that you have the impression of being too strict. Trust your feelings. Remember that changing idea is not necessarily a sign of weakness. Children have a strong sense of "fair play" and they meet an adult who changes his mind to be more fair.
• Try to establish regular routines for your children. Children need the security provided by the routine and regular activities in a stable environment. Security and stability help children to behave in a stable and cooperative. • Plan
sometimes out of the routine to avoid boredom. Once established, the routines can be broken for special reasons. Non-routine activities give children the opportunity to have fun and see new things, knowing that eventually they will return to the safety of their normal routine.
• Remember that every child needs to know that there are limits. Impose limits and calmly but firmly insist on certain standards of conduct will give a sense of security to your child.
To inquire
If your child's difficult behavior worries you and you feel you need extra help to those that can provide family and friends, know that there are books very helpful in this regard as well as courses and workshops on parenting.
If behavioral problems your child are severe and frequent, ask your family doctor to refer you to therapists who work with children. You can also contact a community organization like the Canadian Association for Mental Health to obtain more information about resources and support services available in your area.
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Source
http://www.cmha.ca/bins/content_page.asp?cid=2-29-66&lang=2
