About Alexandrine Saint-Cast, psychomotor, member of the French Federation of Psychomotor and as the Association for Research and psychomotor development. Alexandrine Saint-Cast : No this is not a fault, it's a way to feel and express in behavioral responses discomfort in interpersonal situations, exchanges with another person.
This is not a fault but it's embarrassing because this emotion negative, uncomfortable for the child, is associated with fear, anxiety.
Being shy, it does not dare, but do not know, reducing its capacity to express, not to use its potential. The child is as overwhelmed by his emotions and can not control himself.
can see how this experience can become a hindrance, even a source of suffering. That is why it is good to help children overcome their shyness.
How to find shyness in a child?
AS-C. : This type of reaction can occur from about 3 years. Before, the child has little awareness of its actions with another. He is turned toward him and clearly does not realize that something else may think about it.
is when this realization the other is that the child loses some spontaneity relational. It may become more reserved, which is quite usual.
This will draw attention is the child who blushed, turned pale, crouched in the legs of his mother, hiding her face against an adult or other children.
Others will express themselves quite differently. They will not shut themselves but rather too open, talk fast and loud, move, jump. These reactions are also a sign of trouble finding the right place, good relational distance.
All combinations are possible between these two extremes. A child may be contained in the dual relationship and too expansive, excited group, for example.
Children may be intimidated by adults or each other. Then we will be attentive to what it expresses to help do not get into the habit of reacting that way.
How? After all, if it is his nature to be reserved, why not leave him alone?
AS-C. : Every child has its own personality and therefore its modes of reaction to be observed. So this is a question of dosage.
Excessive shyness is related to an unpleasant experience and may even go to a relational anxiety, a psychomotor inhibition. Sometimes these reactions may be related to protection aggressiveness facing one another or against oneself is a way to block the exchange, position themselves in negative.
As usual, these are his other reactions that will help assess the situation. If, however, the child is comfortable, eats and sleeps well, rest assured if and changes in attitude, do not worry. By
cons if other behaviors also evoke anxiety, malaise, we must be attentive and help them flourish.
How reassure the child shy?
AS-C. : Parents have both a role in protecting and opening for their child in his environment. The failure of one or the other can result in a lack of confidence.
For example, leaving a child in a place unknown to him without explanation or preparation may worry, be late to pick him too. These situations could create a feeling of insecurity.
Instead, overprotective, do not let him do new experiments, which is a way not to trust him, is not positive.
It is always advisable to explain to children what they will do, what will happen, to prepare for situations that may be troubling as a medical consultation, even when very young and does not speak yet.
time adjusting to the nursery, for example, serves this purpose. So that the child does not feel a shock when the separation and it does not keep a bad memory. It will also
attentive to her special requests which vary from one child to another and according to his age.
Moreover, children are very sensitive to what is said about them. So beware "tags" quickly asked, in turn, refer the child a picture that he will comply. Of course not mock him, respect him and his behavior speak for him to understand that it can be expressed with words, without blocking nor be overwhelmed by emotions.
Sources
http://www.france5.fr/maternelles/eveil/W00252/1/85765.cfm
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